Romance
novels are all about falling in love – finding a soul mate and
sometimes having great sex. That's what I love about writing romance.
I can be, even for a short time, someone else. I am able to fall in
love over and over again. That's also why readers love romance
novels. For a short space fo time, they have the perfect lover.
What
don't I love about romance novels? Formulaic plots, predictable
events and the main conflict is between the couple. How is that
romantic? I don't want to red page after page of fighting. That isn't
what love is about. I've heard other romance authors tell me, "It's
what sells." or "It's what readers want."
Is
it? I'm a reader as well as a writer and I don't like it. I like an
immediate attraction between my lovers. I believe in love at first
sight – because it happened to me. I see the romance as the two of
them getting to know one another, admitting they are attracted and,
eventually, sating their lust in mutually satisfying sex.
Another
thing I don't like – arrogant, misogynistic, self-centered heroes
who act as if women are there for the taking. Romance novels thrive
on this bestial behavior. The love scenes often include the hero –
convinced the woman is attracted to him, and can't resist him,
forcing his attentions on her. This is, in my opinion, tantamount to
rape.
I'm
sick of plots where the couple meets, find themselves attracted, may
or may not have sex right away, have a falling out and squabble for
the rest of the book. A little of that goes a very long way. Yes,
couples argue, but they can learn to communicate. Try talking it out
– quit throwing lamps at each other. True love isn't like that.
Sadly,
these formulaic novels emphasize a lot of the wrong elements of a
relationship. Love isn't simply lust. It isn't fighting and yelling
and having makeup sex.
True
love is liking the faults as well as the strengths of your soul mate.
It's talking about what's on your mind – even if ti's simply what
to have for dinner. It's patience, compromise, communication. True
love is having the best sex ever – simply because it's with the
person you love. It's attraction for one person – not many. It's
working hard at building a relationship.
Let's
talk conflict for a moment. Conflict is what pushes a story forward.
It propels the couple toward the conclusion of their story. The best
conflicts, I feel, are things the couple must face together and grow
stronger as they unite against a common foe.
Good
conflict is outside the relationship, not a part of it. If the main
action of the story is the couple fighting and staying apart, I stop
reading. I think that's why I love to write romantic suspense. I can
honestly say that I don't use that type of conflict. I like my
couples to ace danger, work as a team and overcome the villain
together. I don't want the foe to be one another.
I
have to wonder if readers really do want that type of novel or if
they simply sell because that's what is available? I promise my
readers this – I will not resort to formulaic writing. If that is
truly what you want, I'm not your girl. If you want fresh, exciting,
fast paced and often lusty stories, then you've come to the right
place. I promise, you won't be disappointed.
©
Dellani Oakes
6 comments:
Great article. A lot of my own sentiments. I don't think the H&H should fight with each other. Not too much. They can actively disagree with each other, be at odds with each other, but the romance should be a relationship building story and how they work *together* to solve an issue that's external to their own relationship, or even an issue that will help them be together. But there's nothing sexy or romantic about couples who fight.
Nothing wrong with a little sexual tension to keep things interesting but once the couples decide that they are an item team work should take precedence over in fighting. I prefer romantic suspense over straight romance as it adds more excitement
Thanks, ladies! See why we get along so well? We think a lot alike. :)
I so agree with you, Dellani.
Thank you, Shane!
I'm with you there and it seems that it falls in the same line of how I want to write my own story (though not a romance). I agree, the denials, the "trials and tribulations", the arrogant hero and the weak heroine, etc. etc. I am glad that you like the love-at-first sight and having an unwritten rule of the two characters meeting and discovery. Them getting together isn't the climax; it's how they become stronger amidst the drama that is what we "readers" truly want and not what said publishers say.
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